Pam Slaton: “Searching for …”

I wouldn’t con­sider her a geneal­o­gist nec­es­sar­ily. She is more of a pri­vate detec­tive. Nothing of the process is cap­tured on the show. I wrote a review based on the first episode pre­view — http://rootsandrambles.blogspot.com/2011/01/review-searching-for-new-program-on.html I’ll be inter­ested to hear what you think of it.

I am great­ful that Oprah knows that this affects many adults. I have also looked for many years to find my birth fam­ily and to know my ori­gin. My birth mother and birth father are from New Jersey. In 2002 I went to New Jersey and met my birth moth­ers brother in Atlantic City. He said he took one look at me and knew I was related to them. He took me to my grand­fa­thers house and did not want my birth mother to know who I was. I had no con­trol on what hap­pened. I didn’t want to cause her any pain. She showed up at my grand­fa­thers. My uncle said I was one of his daugh­ters friend. My birth mother took one look and said yeah right. She then asked how I found her that it was a closed adop­tion. She turned around and left for work. It does not always have a happy end­ing. My uncle tried one more time and had me and my daddy that raised me to show up at my grand­fa­thers birth­day party a few sum­mers later. He did not tell her we were com­ing. Once again she had been cold to me. She was very lov­ing to my three year old son but felt so much pain from what she went thru as a teenager that she has not wanted to have a rela­tion­ship with me. My uncle, my grand­fa­ther and my birth mother will not tell me any­thing about my birth father; his name, his par­ents name, all I found out is that he was from Bridgeton New Jersey that is where my birth­moth­ers fam­ily lived at the time. I may never know any of my fam­ily his­tory. I always wanted to know was he really Italian? When did his fam­ily come to America? Would he want to meet me and his grand­kids? Do I look like him? Questions I will never have answered. I just wanted her to know that I had a great mom and dad that loved me and I did not judge her. Now that my mom and dad have passed away I won­der all the time what if my birth father would be will­ing to meet me. But I may never get that chance because birth fathers did not have to be listed. North car­olina won’t give me any infor­ma­tion about my adop­tion. Since my daddy passed away I feel like an orphan with no fam­ily except for my son and my one year old daugh­ter. Feeling aban­doned in North Carolina. Why are some birth moth­ers’ ashamed of us. Can any­one help me find my Italian fam­ily or is there no hope?

pam my name is amanda varin i am try­ing to help my grand­mother she is 72 years old and the only thing she has ever wanted is to find her son that her father made her give up for adop­tion about 48 years ago. back then it was a shame to the fam­ily to have a child out of wed­lock. my gram never wanted to give him up and has tried many dif­fer­ent ways to find him but we are not a rich fam­ily and she does not know what else to do. please if u think u can help me it would mean every­thing in the world to me and my grand­mother. I want her only wish to come true right now she is healthy but she is almost 73 and this being her only wish in life i want to help her make it come true. she has spent her whole life help oth­ers she was a nurse for over 25 years and to this day will do any­thing for any­one and i want to be able to do some­thing for her. please help me .
thank you
amanda varin

Hello Ms.Slaton My is Novella Domino I have watch so of your show. I really like want i saw, I’m 52 yr old and I’m really in search. Of my mother, Mother can you help us.

Thank you

my name is tammy im in desparate need of your help,im try­ing to find my hus­bands birth son that he hasnt seen since his son was taken from him 20 yrs.ago there are two sons but actu­ally 3 days ago i found the youngest son myself after years of search­ing but i cant find the old­est son and i really really need help-your help.20 yrs.ago my hus­band was work­ing in alabama try­ing to earn enough money to get his fam­ily a home and he would send for his two sons and wife in geor­gia but before he could do that his father in law called him say­ing that he needed to get to geor­gia becouse janet has tried to sell the two sons and cps has taken them but when my hus­band got to hartwell,georgia the two boys were already placed in homes and my hus­band was arrested and the jail wouldnt let him out until he agreed to leave town and not come back„my hus­bands ex wife is janet john­son and the son that we are try­ing to find is andrew lawrence john­son age 22,born in 1988 in hartwell,georgia.last we known andrew lived in toccoa,georgia„his grand­fa­ther is charles brice or charles bryson.i have a 13 lit­tle girl named tara and a 10 yr.old lit­tle boy named alex that needs to reunite with their older brother andrew,andrew’s bio-brother that we’ve just foung samuel roe is also look­ing for him after we told him that he to has an older brother that we’re try­ing and need­ing to find,ive writ­ten other talk shows and noth­ing and we cant afford to hire a pri­vate i.please mrs.pam we so des­per­atly need to find our son,my hus­band has 3 out of the 4 kids and our fam­ily isnt com­plete until we find him,you can email me at [email protected] we’re will­ing to do any­thing to find andrew johnson.thank you tammy page

My mother, Esther Hope Steele, was born in 1903 in Chicago. At the age of 3 she was given up for adop­tion to a wealthy Chicago attor­ney named William Paulsen whose wife, Anna, ran away with the fam­ily chauf­feur sev­eral years later tak­ing the two chil­dren (one of whom was my mother). In 1913 my mother was adopted by the grand­par­ents we all knew and who raised her to adult­hood when she mar­ried and had 6 chil­dren. In my geneal­ogy search I have traced three of the fam­ily tree branches suc­cess­fully leav­ing only my mater­nal grandmother’s line which has been a com­plete blank. All I have of hers is a mar­riage cer­tifi­cate and her death cer­tifi­cate. To com­pli­cate mat­ters even more, my mater­nal grand­fa­ther, Harry Allen Steele, told his third wife that he had never been mar­ried and that he had no chil­dren. My mother was a prod­uct of the sec­ond mar­riage. A book that I wrote, “Esther, A Child Alone” was pub­lished in 1994 but is no longer in print because the pub­lisher, Northwest Publishing Inc., stole mil­lions of dol­lars from the com­pany and they went out of busi­ness. I feel that this would be a very inter­est­ing episode for Pam Slaton’s show but I have no idea how to get this email to her. Any help would be greatly apprea­ci­ated. Thanks

Blessedly I was reunited with my daugh­ter I gave up for adop­tion in 1953, I found her almost by acci­dent. I had entered info on an adoptee site, do not even remem­ber the name, and got an e-mail later from a young man who at first thought I was his birth mother, but then real­ized I would have been 12, on his birth cer­tifi­cate his moth­ers name was actu­ally the same as my mother’s includ­ing age as well. Turned out he is a half-brother. He sug­gested I fill out papers through the Department of Health with the state where I gave birth and where my daugh­ter was adopted. She appar­ently had also filled out the same papers a few years before and we both received a let­ter at the same time telling us that we were mother and daugh­ter. This was 5 years ago and we have been in con­tact ever since, I have been to see her and fam­ily twice, she and hus­band has been to see me once. I truly believe it all came about because of God, we are both Christians. I am truly blessed to have her in my life.

My email address is [email protected]

I am look­ing for any rel­a­tives on my father’s side. I was put away into an insti­tu­tion when I was 1 year old. I know some of my rel­a­tives on my mother’s side.